7 Reasons Why Your Spiritual Awakening Has Come to a Sudden Stop

No matter your level of conscious awareness or the level of spiritual enlightenment that you have attained, there will come a time on your spiritual journey where you know and feel that you have made great internal progress and then suddenly.. nothing.

Positivity has flown out the window, prophetic visions and lucid dreaming have been replaced with normal lower conscious ideals and mindfulness has been replaced with overactive thinking patterns. You simply can’t make the connection that you once felt and it seems impossible to return to the level of light, love and higher awareness that you seek.

Everything you attempt to get moving again seems to fail, as if an invisible road block has been put right in front of you, leaving you wondering, just what is going on? It’s a path that can’t be avoided, but why does it happen?

Spiritual road blocks are designed for you to slow down and take a break. Your initial spiritual awakening, may have been so full-blown, that now your mind needs the time to rearrange itself. A reformation of belief systems, perceptions of the world and perceptions of yourself are in order here.

These time periods can be extremely frustrating and sometimes even painful if the cycle is leading you into (a)nother Dark Night of the Soul. Navigating this rocky terrain requires, patience and gentleness with yourself, in order to sail the rough waters, safely ashore.

Determining the root cause of spiritual, developmental, stalemates, are crucial to getting you back on the road again.

1.You Need Healing

A spiritual awakening can bring repressed memories and emotions from your unconscious into your conscious awareness. Such as past lives, things you may have forgotten about or things you weren’t even aware had occurred, may come bubbling to the surface. You may even begin to disassociate with these memories, eluding yourself into believing that they are figments of your imagination.

2.You’re Angry

Any psychologist will tell you that anger stems from a wide
variety of underlying causes. When it comes to anger stemming from a spiritual awakening however, we usually can narrow down the field a little bit.

You still have hidden repressed memories, not yet brought to surface as well as the failure to forgive for those memories brought to your conscious awareness.

3. You have developed an over-inflated sense of self.

When you awaken you feel on top of the world, you feel like you have ‘finally arrived’ and looking back at others who have not yet reached your level of awareness, you can’t help but eventually feel “special”.

Don’t get me wrong, spiritual enlightenment and the evolution of consciousness is something to be celebrated!

However, spiritual enlightenment is the ultimate goal for all humanity, not just a chosen few.

The more you associate yourself with this I.D of being different or special, that is according to Freud, “motivated by self-gratification
and pleasure” the more you battle with your ‘super ego’ effectively making it impossible to sustain a present awareness of acceptance and love, Thus hindering the continuance of your spiritual growth.

Quite simply the more you believe that you have “arrived” the more you have nowhere to go. No matter how much you want to continue on your quest in attaining consistent spiritual fulfillment your cup is full and needs to be emptied.

4. You’re frustrated with the current world status.

After much euphoria and exploration of the higher realms of life, gaining the wisdom and understanding of your multidimensional universally connected existence, you find yourself– human again. This can be a major let down. The power that you exuded in the upper realms isn’t manifesting in your current physical state and this can cause much discomfort and impatience.

You may also feel alienated from much of society as you have been endowed with much wisdom and wish to share your knowledge and yet to those who are “un-enlightened”, your perceptions and ideals are viewed as unrealistic and over-exuberant.

After much effort in attempting to teach others of your path, you end up feeling more discouraged than appreciated. Feeling as though your hands are chained, watching as the masses fall into the same old cycles of fear, attachment and compliance to the ruling oligarchy.

5. You’ve fallen back into old patterns of behaviour

Do you remember that moment when you first “made contact?” The moment when everything opened up for you in a blink of an eye and your entire world was changed. You saw reason and meaning behind everything that is, was and is yet to come.

Do you also remember how it felt when you realized that you were a pawn in the game, a slave to a system that appeared to be winning?

This is your reminder.

What we were exposed to during our awakenings was real and true, so hold fast and hold firm because we are the change and we are the people the world has been waiting for– all of us.

6. You’re not listening to your heart

While we are all globally connected, with hearts beating to the same drum, we are still unique. Each of us have a piece to a larger puzzle that is ushering in the age of enlightenment. Not one of us views the world from an entirely uniform basis of perception and it is in this uniqueness that lies your life purpose. That piece of the puzzle that you are to bring to the table and do this you must follow your heart.

We are always receiving subtle cues, synchronicities and soft nudges from the universe: a guidepost of light in a world that sometimes can feel enshrouded with darkness. When your mind cannot find its way out of its current spectrum of reality, your heart will always guide you along the path you are seeking.

Trust it.

7.You still think that you are unworthy

Due to major cultural, societal and religious indoctrination’s, a spiritual awakening can naturally be interpreted as an external happening, that of which you had little or no control over.

A gift from the gods or God, as your consciousness projects itself and is viewed out of the physical body. As such, feelings of
unworthiness can immediately take over the control center in your mind and many will feel that they have been blessed with such a wonderful gift, that is not deserved.

While there are many Gods, Bodhisattva’s and Guides that can be of assistance to you on your awakening journey, the realization of authentic power is the ultimate liberation.
This authentic power emanates from within your own unconscious mind, that which is already a part of you; quite simply it is in your DNA.

By making the unconscious-conscious and bringing memory forward, the wisdom and knowledge unfolds in knowing that you are in control of your own destiny. Everything you need is already within you.

So if you are stuck on your spiritual awakening journey, meet your anger with love, follow your heart in all of your ways and remember that you are always worthy.

by LJ Vanier

This article was originally published here at isoulscience.com November 16, 2015

3 Simple Steps To Overcome Regrets

We have all felt since we were young that we need to measure up to something, someone or this imagined version of ourselves that we haven’t aspired to yet and when we fall short, we tend to blame ourselves for the “coulda, woulda, shoulda” scenarios.

regretsThen dragging these emotions along with us as we continue to navigate through our lives like a ‘big old ball and chain’, known as extra baggage.

When we let the actions of our past determine our future and label ourselves as something that we once were, we withhold the true freedom and happiness we deserve.

And so with each moment in your life where you are holding onto guilt, regret or shame always remember:

1.You are not the person who were in the past

We are not the same people as we were yesterday and the way that we think about ourselves truly determines the outcomes of our future. While a period of reflection can be beneficial, dwelling in the past causes us to repeat the same mistakes over and over again.

By forgiving yourself for the things you have done or not done ; said or not said you give yourself your own keys to freedom. Nothing can buy freedom and no one can give it to you.

Freedom is a gift that you give to yourself and you are overdue.

2. You never stop growing

When we understand that our outer world is a reflection of our inner mind frame, then we can accurately determine why exactly it is, that we find ourselves in different relationships, situations and lifestyles.

By listening to ourselves and feeling what is right within our own hearts we have found the greatest tool we will ever need. Our hearts are our greatest compass and will always steer us due north. When you can find the courage to always follow your heart, although many times it may break, you allow for real and pure spiritual growth and it will always deliver you to the path that you ultimately seek.

3. You will heal

The first step in healing is recognizing that there is something that needs to be healed. Once you have recognized the pattern of behaviour that is manifesting within your own life, you can then determine its source of origin.

Quite simply, it is what we have yet to heal within ourselves that we attract in our physical reality. Thus, each time someone comes into your life it is a lesson, a reflection of yourself and what you are mirroring into the world that you need to recognize and heal.

As such, we will continue to manifest the same relationship archetypes that reflect a wounded compartmentalized emotion that is buried deep within our psyche and until we can heal ourselves this cycle will continue.
This is when you will be faced with an important choice. Either accept and heal or reject and bury. By rejecting your pain, the cycle will continue and by accepting your pain the cycle ends and begins anew.

When you can place your disposition in a state of acceptance, you give yourself a space for consciousness to evolve. Consciousness, being the quintessence of the All; the natural state of light, love and life.

 

by LJ Vanier

21 Inspiring Things That Authentic People Do Differently

20 Inspiring Things that Authentic People Do Differently

We all think of ourselves as pretty authentic, striving to be the best possible versions of ourselves that we can. Each day we become stronger, wiser, more grounded, more loving and confident.

It’s not easy being an authentic person and it takes courage to stand up for yourself and for your own wants and needs. To follow your inner voice and hearts desires can be an uphill battle. Let alone the societal and religious dogmas that have been thrust upon us.

After working our way through we still, are faced with the challenge of finding out for ourselves what we truly would like to get out of this world while were here.
when the mind is quietAuthentic people, have mastered these traits and stay true to their hearts– no matter how far off the beaten trail it may lead.

1.They think before they speak

Authentic people are not run by their emotions and they know how to assess a situation before giving their input.

2. They speak for what is right; not for what is popular

Standing up for what is right isn’t always easy to do, especially when faced by peers and elders who think differently. It takes confidence and courage to stand firm in the face of scrutiny.

3. They indulge in conversations with depth

deep conversationsAuthentic people aren’t captivated by mainstream hype, the next it girl or guy or the latest buzz in the media. They yearn for deep and meaningful conversation. They want to explore your mind, your heart and your soul.

4. They don’t pay attention to gossip or drama

It is said that gossip stops upon meeting wise ears, and gossip always stops with an authentic person. They don’t take kindly to those who choose to speak harshly of other behinds their backs and make a non-judgmental note of the “witch that warned them” Quite often you will find the words turned back around on you, when attempting to spread gossip, to an authentic person.

5. They are comfortable being alone

Authentic people are comfortable alone because they are in a position of love and acceptance of themselves, otherwise being alone would turn into being lonely and it never does.

6. They value life as an experience rather than a collection of goods.

make today greatAuthentic people value each and every moment and experience and understand that the best things in life can’t be bought or sold.

Life to them is about living, caring, loving and giving, not having, taking, asking and expecting.

7. They appear as an introvert, but are very outgoing

Authentic people highly regard time alone to recharge and rewire. They are often mistaken for recluse, but when exposed to social gathering they can be very outgoing and friendly. Too much time in social circles will become draining on them, and will likely be one of the first to ditch off early for a nice relaxing evening at home.

8. They truly wish for the success of others

Authentic people do not secretly wish for others to fail or become jealous for the successes of those around them. They genuinely like to see people happy and healthy, living and loving their lives.

9. They trust their gut and listen to their instincts

Authentic people know how to listen to themselves and can appreciate the moments where they didn’t as another opportunity to trust themselves more.

10. They follow their heart

Woman walking alone at sunsetAuthentic people follow their hearts no matter how far, how crazy and how much it may hurt.

They understand that their hearts are their very best teacher and respect its wise wishes.

11. They stand out from the crowd

Authentic people do not search out for popularity, they stand out for their own uniqueness. No asking, no expecting it just happens. When you live true to yourself, you become eccentric, eclectic and exuberant it just happens!

12. They love themselves first

Authentic people know that there is no way to be a beacon of light or an inspiration to others unless they can lead by example. In order to love others and accept each other no matter what we must first love and accept ourselves, it is the only way.

13. They do things their own way

Authentic people don’t care how it is supposed to be done, the joy of living is learning, and learning in our own unique ways.

14. They see the value in life

All life has value, none more than another, from the tiniest insect to the largest mammal, we are here on this earth together and all life has meaning.

15. They see whats under the surface

Authentic people don’t focus on whats on the surface, and they prefer to see whats hidden underneath. They quite often don’t take words at face value, and they can hear the emotions behind the words being spoken. This is what they listen to.

16. They don’t take it personally

Self-Compassion-Concord-MassachusettsAuthentic people know that when someone is rude, critical or downright hurtful that it has more to do about the other person than it does about them. Authentic people always empathize with others and show a sense of understanding, no matter the words spoken.

17. They are decisive, cool and collected

Authentic people always have a plan, a goal and an aspiration even if its to just go with the flow.

18. They make their own path

Authentic people want to do what has never been done, see what has never been seen and reach where no one would have ever thought possible. Sometimes, they secretly enjoy proving to you that it CAN be done.

19. They are never fake

An authentic person will never tell you what you want to hear, just because you want to hear it. They will empathize with you and give you the ugly truth when you are ready for it.

compassion_220. They are always grateful 

They know that the key to abundance is being in a state of acceptance. The more that anyone expects things, the less can be accepted.

21. They see the world from a higher perspective

When you live true to yourself, with love, hope, strength, courage and commitment you can’t help but view the world from a more perceptive view. You have built your mountain strong and firm and you can’t wait to help everyone else rise to the top.

by LJ Vanier

 

10 Immediate Signs That You’ve Found Your Calling in Life

10 Immediate Signs That You've Found Your Calling in Life

How can you tell if you’ve found your calling? As a doctor who was called to medicine at a young age but then wound up disillusioned by the system, questioning my calling, I’ve asked myself this question a lot. It’s been a long strange trip- first leaving medicine, then feeling called back, then leaving again only to find my role in healing our broken healthcare system as a writer, speaker, revolutionary, and teacher of physicians. Along the way, I’ve learned a few things about how to know whether you’re on the right track.

1. You’ll realize you’ve been training for your calling since the moment you were born.

how old is your soulEven the gritty things, the disappointments, the regrets, and the screw ups, they were all prepping you for what you’re now being called to do. You’ll realize that the divorce, the bankruptcy, the death of your loved one, the failure, the rejection- it was just school, teaching you the lessons your soul needed to learn in order to be who you’re being called to be.

2. Mystical things will start happening.

You might be tempted to write them off as coincidences, only they’re too perfect, too exactly what you need in that particular moment, too much like miracles to call them accidents. The synchronicities will fill you with a sense of wonder, because they’re proof positive that you’re being guided, that you’re not in this alone, that Someone is moving mountains to ensure that your mission is a success.

3. When you get off course, you’ll get redirected.

unfulfilledDoors you longed to walk through will slam shut. If you take the wrong fork in the road, your path will be littered with barbed wire and mustard gas and dragons and sharp knives lining the path. You will get the hint that you’ve made a wrong turn, steering yourself off course from your date with destiny, when the journey becomes a relentless struggle. The deal will fall through. The money will run out. The mentor who’s been providing the magical gifts won’t follow you onto the wrong path. People won’t sign up. You’ll be rerouted just as magically as you were steered to your calling in the first place.

4. You’ll be guided by ease, even in the face of obstacles.

When you find yourself struggling to get through an obstacle-ridden forest, it can be hard to tell- is your commitment just being tested, or have you veered off course? Obstacles can be part of the growth process, the cultivation of your inner hero, a necessary part of your hero’s journey. But they can also be signs that you’ve made a wrong turn. How can you tell the difference? The guidepost you can trust is a sense of movement towards ease. If the challenges are mounting, things are getting worse, one hard struggle is piling upon the other, you’ve probably gotten seduced off course from your true calling, and the Universe is just waiting patiently, twiddling Divine thumbs because you have free will, but never giving up faith that you will find your way back to your calling, which will always lead you to your own holy grail. When you’re back on track, things start to flow again.

5. Magical mentors will appear just in the nick of time.

10 Steve Jobs Quotes That Will Leave an ImpactJust when you need it most, the right people will show up, with just the tools you’ll need to support you and your journey in an almost mystical way.

6. Your health is likely to improve.

A strange but welcome side effect of finding your calling is that your health is likely to improve. You may notice fewer cravings for unhealthy foods, you’ll have more energy for moving your body, aches and pains that used to plague you might disappear, you’ll feel less tired, and chronic illnesses you may be battling may start to get better.

Take Andy Mackie, for example. At 59 years old, Andy Mackie had undergone nine heart surgeries and was taking fifteen medications to try to keep him alive, but the medicines left him feeling horrible, so one day, he told his doctors he wanted to stop the drugs. They told him if he did, he would die within a year, so Andy decided if he was dying, he wanted to do something he’d always wanted to do. So he took the money he would have spent on his medications and used it to buy 300 harmonicas, and he gave them away to children, complete with harmonica lessons. The following month, he was still alive, so he bought another 300 harmonicas. Thirteen years and 20,000 harmonicas later, Andy Mackie finally passed away.

7. You may find that money flows in just as you’re ready to throw in the towel.

3 Reasons the Law of Attraction Isn't Working For YouI’m not suggesting that you won’t wind up in debt or staring at an empty bank account when you used to have a full one or even bankrupt. But if you’re on the right path, you won’t wind up living under that freeway overpass near what used to be your house, and you may find that money appears almost magically once you’re really right in the dead center of your life’s purpose.

8. You may feel strangely peaceful, even when you have every reason to be anxious.

Everyone around you will likely think you’re crazy. A part of you will agree with them. But a wise inner knowing, that part of you I call your Inner Pilot Light, will be so comforted by the fact that you’re finally on the path to your purpose that you may feel unusually calm until your rational mind kicks in.

Our souls long to express what we’re here on this earth to express, and when you finally fall into alignment with your calling, your soul does a little happy dance. It may appear as if everything else in your life is falling apart, but you’ll have this sense of peace, a huge relief, that at least- finally- you know what you’re called to do.

9. The Universe will roll out the red carpet.

spiritual awakeningWhen what you’re being called to do is what is needed for the highest good of all beings, the Universe will bend over backwards to hand you whatever you need on a silver platter. No request is too small. A copywriter may volunteer to help you just when you were thinking you needed to write a sales page. Someone will donate a printer when it’s time print a flyer. You’ll feel so supported, so lucky, that you’ll know you’re on track, even if you’re not quite clear what you’re on track to do.

10. Your people will find you.

Few can fulfill a calling alone. Most of us need a tribe to lift us up as we do brave, scary, world-changing things. But don’t worry. When you’re really on purpose, your people will find you, if only you’re courageous enough to be vulnerable about what you’re being called to do.

About the author

Lissa Rankin, MD is a mind-body medicine physician, founder of the Whole Health Medicine Institute training program for physicians and health care providers, and the New York Times bestselling author of Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself. She is on a grass-roots mission to heal health care, while empowering you to heal yourself.

Lissa blogs at LissaRankin.com and created two online communities –HealHealthCareNow.com and OwningPink.com. She is also the author of two other books, a professional artist, an amateur ski bum, and an avid hiker. Lissa lives in the San Francisco Bay area with her husband and daughter.

**This was originally featured at Wake-Up World

3 Incredibly Easy Ways to Love and Accept Yourself

When was the last time you gave yourself credit for doing a job well done?

Most of us have a difficult time acknowledging ourselves. As a result, we are our own worst critic and suffer internal angst. Although we may seem happy on the outside, the inside is a raging battlefield. Self-loathing, hate, and shame are the biggest barriers to fulfillment.

I know this all too well. I spent three decades hating myself, at war with my body, suffering immense personal hate and shame. But there is a purpose to this type of pain. In my new book Adventures for Your Soul, I share specific steps you can take to overcome self-sabotage so you can reach self-love.

In doing research for my next book, I discovered that we all want to be happy, but self-shame blocks us. A recent Dove Study says that 95% of women hate a part of themselves. I know we are our own worst critics, but life doesn’t have to be this way. In fact, self-love starts with appreciation. If you struggle with loving yourself, first try to appreciate you and all your efforts so far. By acknowledging you, you show yourself you matter.

And you do matter!

Maybe you are like I was. My view was pretty grim: I had given up on trying to love myself, and felt like I was doomed to be fat, alone, and sad for the rest of my life. But something happened while writing my last book. I found real, honest, raw self-love. Not the selfish kind, because real love is not selfish, but the self-love that makes you happy from the inside out. The kind that makes you drive down the street with a perma grin because you are so in love with life and yourself. The kind that other people compliment you and say, “Wow, you look so happy. You’re glowing.” The kind where when you walk in a room, people stop in awe of your natural charisma and beauty.

Seem to good to be true? It’s your divine responsibility to accept who you are so you can shine brightly.

I am talking about the kind of self-love that can only come when you allow yourself to be who you really are instead of who you think you should be. I found self-love and it is beautiful.

Over the past few years I’ve received hundreds of emails from people all around the world. The number one question I get asked is, “How do you love yourself?” Well, today I pull back the curtain on my own self-love journey and share three easy steps you can do right away to feel more self-love:

1. Be willing

The first easy step is to be open and willing. This requires a focus and setting an intention that you want to feel more compassionate toward yourself. Sometimes we have blocks we don’t even realize. Repeat, “I am willing to let go of this insecurity.” Just in the willingness, a shift will happen inside of you.

2. Allow yourself to be gentle

When you are mean to yourself, it is impossible to be happy.It is important to turn your inner critic into a more kind and compassionate voice. Instead of beating yourself up emotionally for not being where you think you should be, start to celebrate how far you’ve come. Small moments of kindness will transform your life. It is about being gentle and into yourself

3. Respect yourself

When you say, “I matter,” you are saying to the world, “my dreams matter.” You are in a relationship with yourself, and as in any relationship that is strong and loving, you want kindness, respect, and compassion. Communication is essential for opening up to new possibilities of self-love. This means communicate with yourself and listen to your own inner guide. Ask yourself, “What do I need today? What does my body want? What is my soul craving?” These key questions will guide you to a more loving way of life.

Your turn! I’d love to hear from you; What is your soul craving? Leave in the comments below.

About the Author

shannonShannon Kaiser is the best-selling author of Find Your Happy, Find Your Happy Daily Mantras and her newest book Adventures For Your Soul. Named the “Top 100 Women to Watch in Wellness” by Mind Body Green. Shannon is the founder of playwiththeworld.com a personal development website. Shannon is an author, speaker and life coach and her work has been recognized on media outlets such as Huffington Post and Health Magazine.

This article has been published with the expressed consent of the author

3 Simple Steps to Healing Emotional Addiction

3 Steps to Healing Emotional Addictions

“Unexpressed emotion will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways. ~Sigmund Freud~

When I decided to write about this topic I was conflicted, conflicted because it was through mine own emotional turmoil and trauma that I experienced spiritual awakening. Taking my heart past the limit, I was so immersed in my emotional body that my heart couldn’t handle it. The pain and the inner turmoil were so intense that it felt like my chest was being ripped apart and it was on that day when I fell to my knees and surrendered to my pain, that I experienced spiritual awakening and enlightenment.

And so, I was conflicted, as I am living proof that if you take your heart to the limit and let it be your guide among st the trials and tribulations of the world, it will lead to you to the path you ultimately seek.

But then I realized, upon exploring the subject of emotional addiction, that no one should need to take the path, as I did. And that conscious evolution, and enlightenment will come much easier if we all had the proper teachings and tools.

And so, here are 3 Steps to Healing Emotional Addictions and Why it is So Important.

1. Do Away With Distractions

The television, the radio, the magazines and the social media sites (that aren’t teaching you anything). They are an emotional addiction and are there to keep your mind immersed in your body. These outlets want you to continue the cycle of thinking a certain way, causing you to feel a certain way, strung out in a feedback loop of negativity.

Think about your favorite song and how it makes you feel. Each song sparks an emotion within you, this emotion is triggered by a memory, the memory produces a thought and the thought generates a feeling. This all is the grand illusion that keeps you from the realization that you are a conscious creator. It keeps your mind immersed in your body of thinking and feeling and the cycle continues. This is the prime purpose of media. In fact, it is the number one sales strategy.

The more you engage in this cycle, the longer it will take to overcome your own emotional addiction to the pain and suffering in which you are experiencing.

2. Give it the Attention it Needs

It is common in hurtful situations to try to avoid the pain and stifle the memories. But by stifling the memories they will manifest negatively and cause havoc in other aspects of our lives. This being the number one reason it is essential to undergo inner child healing.

By accepting our pain and bringing our memories forward into conscious awareness they can be healed. When we can embrace our pain, we can then empower our own growth. We grow most through difficult experiences, so it is essential to embrace it as best you can. So sit with yourself, understand yourself, understand why you feel the way you feel, understand your pain and do not try to put on a false mask.

3. Awareness

Once you have embraced your pain, now is the time to release the negative thought pattern and how to do that is by understanding this.

Each time we have a thought we create a chemical in the brain and thereby we create a chemical reaction. Alike to physical addictions we can become dependent upon the chemical reactions in our own bodies and we become used to feeling a certain way based on how we thinking and feel.

This is why, when seem to be stuck in negative thinking patterns that it is as difficult to break as a physical addiction. Our bodies become dependent upon the chemicals we have created. When you are aware of this function, you can then determine your course of action, and break the addiction.

By consciously changing the way we think we can reroute a self-defeating thought and create new and more positive chemical reactions in the body.

by LJ Vanier

Are You Living True To Your Soul? Quiz

Are You Living True to Your Soul?

“You don’t have a soul, you are a soul. You have a body”- C.S Lewis

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Are you seeking inner peace? Stuck in a rut or don’t know where to go? Here are 12 Things Your Soul Wants You to Remember

Although it may feel like it, your soul is not separate from you. In truth your soul is your true essence, your true existence. We are simply shadows of all that we are.

It is easy to forget who we are, where we come from and all that we can be and sometimes we need a reminder.

1. You are exactly where you a supposed to be.

time alone1No matter the circumstance, no matter the ride that got you to where you are in this very present moment. The choices, the outcomes, the paths you could have taken and didn’t. Your soul wants you to know, that everything happens for a reason, and nothing happens by chance. Have faith, it will all work out.

2. Everything is temporary

Nothing lasts forever, the good the bad and the ugly, nothing is permanent. So be impermanent. Be like water and flow with the ups and downs of life.

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How to Stop Ignoring Your Own Needs

Do you have dreams and goals that are not coming true? After speaking events and group workshops, I always meet people who come up and express their desire to make their goals come true, but they are always so exhausted from helping others.

Can you relate? Do you feel like you are there for everyone else, but at the end of the day, you don’t seem to show up fully for yourself?

Many of us do this because we want those around us to feel safe, happy, and secure, but when we sacrifice our own needs in the pursuit of pleasing others, it causes internal conflict and problems.

Here are three simple ways for you to stop ignoring your own needs.

1. Adopt the word “no”

Meet Sam. She is a people pleaser and she loves to help others. She has a goal of losing weight and recently joined a gym. Last week, she put on her new running shoes and was excited to go to a Zumba class. Her best friend, who just had a baby, called in a panic and Sam dropped everything to help her friend. All of her friends say she is the best friend a person can have. But at night, Sam mentally berates herself because she can’t accomplish her goals or stick to follow-through. She is alone, sad, and overweight.

This situation is a very common example of people who are prone to people pleasing. I know because I use to be one. I would drop everything to help others, but I realized that the most important relationship in my life is the one with myself. If I am there for everyone else but not me, then ultimately I am not really showing up fully for others. This radical shift encouraged me to learn the power of no. Now “no” is my go-to response, because I have to value my time, energy, and resources. Start saying no and watch your self-worth increase. You will have more time and energy for yourself.

This week, say no more! In the comments below, what will you say no too?

2. Radical reset

A radical reset is a method I subscribe to religiously because it works. The radical reset is about doing a mental makeover by completely overhauling your habits. Let’s say you want to lose weight. A radical reset would be joining a gym or signing up for your first 10K or investing in a nutrition or intuitive counselor.

My friend Amy Leigh Mercree is a fabulous mentor, coach, and medical reader. I had a session with her last week, and she jump-started my health routine and gave me the best radical reset. You might be interested in checking her out here.

3. Trust the process

There is a time and place and certain flow to life. The universe has a natural timing to achieve your goals. If you have been trying to lose weight but the number on the scale isn’t dropping as fast as you’d like, consider yourself in a process of learning, growing, and achieving, and learn to enjoy that process by being fully in the journey

About the Author

shannonShannon Kaiser is the best selling author of Find Your Happy, Find Your Happy Daily Mantras and her newest book Adventures For Your Soul. Named the “Top 100 Women to Watch in Wellness” by Mind Body Green. Shannon is the founder of playwiththeworld.com a personal development website. Shannon is an author, speaker and life coach and her work has been recognized on media outlets such as Huffington Post and Health Magazine.

This article has been published with the expressed consent of the author

3 Easy Steps to Help You Move Past Insecurities and Reach Your Goals

If you have a dream that you want actualized but feel held back because of an insecurity or flaw, you aren’t alone.

Everyone feels insecure at one time or another. But learning how to move through the insecurity is the true breakthrough.

I grew up afraid to share anything I wrote with anyone because I was such a bad speller. I worked with tutors and multiple teachers to try to improve. My best friends would make fun of me when I wrote them notes because the words were so cryptic. So you can imagine that when I left my job in advertising to follow my heart and become a writer, my childhood insecurity flared up. “Who are you to be a writer?” “How dare you think you can make a living doing what you love—you can’t even spell well.”

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Instead of focusing on my flaw, I chose to celebrate my strengths. My inner drive and unwavering dedication to spreading the message of hope and happiness pulled me forward. This propelled me into a successful writing career.

In my premier life-coaching and business mentorship programs, my clients often share flaws or insecurities that hold them back. It happens to all of us; to be human is to have insecurities. But we don’t have to focus on them. Instead of letting them stop you from reaching your goals, use them to inspire you into motivated action.

Here are three easy steps to help you move past insecurities and reach your goals:

1. See the fear and do it anyway

It’s important to recognize that insecurities and flaws are a byproduct of fear. In a spiritual sense we are perfect and whole as we are. So any focus on an area of ourselves that isn’t right is a lack mentality inspired by fear. Fear is just an area that needs love. So send love to your insecurities and the fear will go away.

2. Tell a more positive story

We often have stories we tell ourselves about our flaws. We focus on them and they can define us. But we are not our problems. Start to tell yourself a more positive story. This means you create kind thoughts inspired by love and compassion and you tell yourself loving compliments instead of mean, hurtful thing.

3. Celebrate your strengths

Instead of focusing on the insecurity and how it is holding you back, start to focus on the positive aspects of your life. Celebrate your strengths and focus on giving yourself more love.

What strength are you going to celebrate? Leave your thoughts in the comments.

About the Author

shannonShannon Kaiser is the best selling author of Find Your Happy, Find Your Happy Daily Mantras and her newest book Adventures For Your Soul. Named the “Top 100 Women to Watch in Wellness” by Mind Body Green. Shannon is the founder of playwiththeworld.com a personal development website. Shannon is an author, speaker and life coach and her work has been recognized on media outlets such as Huffington Post and Health Magazine.

This article has been published with the expressed consent of the author.

3 Breakthrough Ways to Deal With Difficult People

3 Breakthrough Ways To Deal With Difficult People

Are you frustrated with someone in your life? Is it impossible to get along with or get what you want from them? Maybe you feel like they aren’t treating you with respect.

Difficult people are a common occurrence, especially since we all have different points of views, opinions, and ways of approaching the world. If you are a sensitive person, you may take the troubling situation even harder. As a highly sensitive person myself, I know I do. When a difficult person comes into my life, I usually obsess about it and take it even harder. I stay up at night trying to understand why this situation is happening.

I believe that everyone we meet, especially difficult people, are divine assignments for us to identify even greater strengths and become more self-aware. This mentality has helped me heal otherwise detrimental situations and allowed me to forgive much easier.

Learning how to create a conflict resolution mentality will serve you and all your relationships. Here are some new techniques to help you make all relationships less troubling.

1. Be aware of ego projections.

We all have this little, negative voice that is manipulative, controlling, and says things like “why is this person mistreating me? I should be getting more. I can’t believe they are doing this to me.” The ego makes it about “me, me, me.” When we are in the ego mindset, we put ourselves on a pedestal, and this separates us from the other person. We think we are better and they are wrong, which often plays into the conflict already created. If you are having a difficult time with someone, focus on your energy and mindset about them. Many difficult people are in our lives to teach us lessons we need to learn—life lessons like being more compassionate or understanding or open to other points of view. Becoming aware of your ego and the fear-based thoughts in the situation will help you move into awareness and see the situation for what it is: an opportunity to learn more about yourself.

2. Send them light and love.

When you are dealing with a difficult person, the ultimate goal is to forgive them, but sometimes it is hard because we are emotionally too frustrated. Being willing to forgive is the first step—all you need to do is be wiling, and in this willingness the healing can begin. You can start by sending them love and light. Mentally, sending them kind thoughts can help you energetically release the resentment.

3. Ask what are we teaching each other?

Every person we meet is a divine assignment. If you are dealing with a difficult person, you are each other’s teachers. Instead of blaming them or being mad that they are so frustrating, ask yourself, “What are they teaching me? What am I teaching them?” Whether the other person gets the lesson or not is not the point. The point of this exercise is to move yourself into a higher vibration so you will know that you are learning from the experience.

When we learn what we need to learn, the situation is healed and removed from our life. Everyone is our teacher, so being open to the profound lesson available to you will help you heal all troubling situations. Remember, it is all about growth and healing, and nothing lasts forever.

If you find yourself in a difficult relationship, try to identify the core lesson, and soon enough this person will no longer bother you. They don’t have to change, but your perspective does, and when it does, everything changes.

All of this happens on your side of the street. A lot of conflict resolution has to happen on the inside before you can resolve it on the outside. But taking these steps will help you move through troubling situations so you can turn all conflicts into resolution.

Awesome Action: I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments. What strategies do you use to handle a difficult person?

About the Author

shannonShannon Kaiser is the best selling author of Find Your Happy, Find Your Happy Daily Mantras and her newest book Adventures For Your Soul. Named the “Top 100 Women to Watch in Wellness” by Mind Body Green. Shannon is the founder of playwiththeworld.com a personal development website. Shannon is an international public speaker a life coach and her work has been recognized on media outlets such as Huffington Post and Health Magazine.

This article has been published with the expressed consent of the author.

What to Do, When You Don’t Know What to Do…

What To Do When You Don't Know What To Do

Are you afraid to make a move because you’re unsure of the outcome? Maybe you are waiting for a guarantee before you make your next move.

I hear folks say, “I want to quit my job, but I don’t know if it will work out,” “I want to start dating again, but only if I meet my soul mate” or “I really want to travel, but I don’t have enough money.”

What To Do When You Don't Know What To DoSo many of us have goals and dreams that we want to accomplish, and we think, “If only I knew how it would work out, then I could move forward.” We don’t really know what to do because we are unsure of the outcome.

Many of us fail to act or move forward because the thought of making a wrong move feels catastrophic. Our thoughts turn negative when we perceive that our next step will put us into a permanent position we can’t get out of. Think about it. Think about a situation where you accepted a new job, or got involved with a new relationship, whether romantically or a new business venture; what were your thoughts? Most people don’t start things by focusing on the end, because we don’t want a promising situation to end. We start new relationships, new diets, new jobs, and make new friends because we want them to work out. We want them to, in essence, be permanent things, because if they work out, that means we are happy, right?

What To Do When You Don't Know What To DoThe truth: When we choose to see our choices as a permanent and a final state, it is a habit that hinders our happiness. Looking at anything as permanent is a path that will trip you up in life. We often hold on to things even when they are meant to be let go of. Jobs that no longer inspire us, relationships that we’ve outgrown …we are afraid to let go because we aren’t sure what will happen when we make our next move.

I call this the life guarantee, where we won’t make a decision because we need to know it will work out. We want the guarantee.

If you have a difficult time making a decision because you are afraid or unsure of the outcome, these steps can help:

1. Treat life like a giant experiment
What if everything you do is just about exploring and trying it out? The expectations we put on our experiences are what hurt us the most. Instead of thinking the outcome has to look a certain way, be in the journey of exploration. Take your power back by making choices that feel aligned with your joyful heart. You can do this by treating life like a big experiment. Everything becomes more fun and playful.

2. It never ends
Often we don’t make a choice because we don’t know how it will work out. Instead of asking what if, what if this doesn’t work, etc., adopt the mentality that everything is always a progression of each other. You will make a choice, then learn more and grow as a person, which will result in you making new choices. So, in essence, nothing is ever wasted and no experience is a mistake. Recognize it never ends and you will feel freer.

3. Don’t look outside yourself
Instead of looking outside of yourself at things you think will make you happy—more money, a smaller body size, the perfect relationship, the dream job—start to cultivate more joy in the moment. Feeling excited about your life right now will take off pressure and allow you to be more relaxed. Realize all of your choices are opportunities to learn and grow. There are no wrong turns, only right choices when you align with your heart.

These tips are from my new book Adventures for Your Soul. Get your copy here. 

About the Author

shannonShannon Kaiser is the best selling author of Find Your Happy, Find Your Happy Daily Mantras and her newest book Adventures For Your Soul. Named the “Top 100 Women to Watch in Wellness” by Mind Body Green. Shannon is the founder of playwiththeworld.com a personal development website. Shannon is an international public speaker a life coach and her work has been recognized on media outlets such as Huffington Post and Health Magazine.

This article has been published with the expressed consent of the author.

5 Ways to Find Stillness in a Crazy World

5 Ways to Find Stillness in a Crazy World

Be still – Stillness reveals the secrets of eternity”

~ Lao Tzu

Life is described as many things, but rarely is it referred to as peaceful, calm, or tranquil. Our lives are a busy juggle of work, chores, responsibilities to ourselves and to others as well as many unexpected things that creep up day-to-day. Sometimes meditation, quiet reflection and even time alone seem like a distant dream within our hectic lives.

meditationSo what can we do? Apart from feel helpless and put it in the “I’ll worry about that quiet-time-for-myself-stuff later” basket? The good news is that stillness is within us. We do not need a quiet garden, secluded beach or a zen den with candles flickering before us in order to find it. The amazing thing about our consciousness and personal power is that we can find stillness, wherever we are and whatever we are doing, in any moment we wish to.  It is a deliberate and very empowering choice.

Here are five tips for creating stillness with ease within your everyday life:

1. Breathe.
Whether you are on the subway, on a conference call, in the line at Starbucks, be aware of your breath. Take a few deep, slow breaths and notice how your body and mind feel as you tune into them and slow down for even 30 seconds.  Everyone has thirty seconds to one minute a day to be calm and get centered.

2. Give yourself a minimum of 30 minutes of electronic downtime.
put it awayIt is surprising how many people go through all of their waking hours with a tablet, phone, TV or laptop constantly present, including as we fall asleep at night.

I like what is referred to as the “electronic sundown” with no electronics active in the hour leading up to bed. Better sleep is much more likely this way, too!

3. Wake up 15 minutes earlier.
This is a trick many successful people take advantage of. They wake sooner, before the rest of the world is awake and before the wheels start turning on all of life’s demands. The first 10 minutes after you wake up are the most important in setting the tone for the whole day.

Don’t reach for your phone, tap straight into your to do list and awaken any dormant anxiety.  Take ten minutes for yourself, to set an intention for the next 24 hours – how do you want to feel?  This has the power to change your mindset for the entire day.

4. Be aware that you create your own energy.
shifting out energy 4 ways to keep it simpleExternal conditions do not. Marianne Williamson said in her book A Return to Love, “Everything we do is infused with the energy in which we do it.

If we’re frantic, life will be frantic. If we are peaceful, life will be peaceful.”  It begins and ends with you.

5. Learn from the greatest spiritual teachers – choose peace within the chaos.
Apply Deepak Chopra’s wisdom by making stillness your daily mantra. Mr Chopra recently said to Oprah as her guest on Super Soul Sunday, when she commented how extremely busy he is and how tricky it was to get him on the show, “My body may be busy but my mind is still.”

Remember, you create your life.  We experience our lives from the inside out.  Peace begins with you.

What do you do in order to find stillness?

With love,
Susie

About the Author

Susie MooreSusie Moore is a life coach whose teachings span a global client base and are regularly featured in leading media outlets. Through in-person coaching, online classes and newsletters, she gives clients the tools they need to lead more fulfilling lives and careers.

As a regular contributor to Marie Claire, The Huffington Post and MindBodyGreen, Susie’s coaching insights have received broad recognition. She also appears regularly as an expert on talk shows, radio programs and in a range of international media publications. Sign up for her free weekly confidence injection at www.susie-moore.com

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