6 Simple Ways to Deepen Your Connection With Others

Life and everything in the universe is one and connected. In fact, recent developments in quantum physics show us how we are all vibrating energies, not made of matter as we see it with our naked eyes, and there is much more to the Universe than that! Although it sounds complicated, it is actually much simpler when you learn to recognize the reality of cause and effect. Just like the butterfly effect, our actions, which are also vibrations, cause changes in everything and everyone around us and this is just small part of what we like to refer to as karma, or you reap what you sow, if you will.

So, in this chaotic world, where the problems seem to get bigger and solutions appear complicated, what can we do to make things better? How can we help one another to make positive changes and raise our vibrations on a collective level?

The best thing to practice is compassion and love, which can be improved by learning to channel each other. This builds a bridge between us to recognize and respect each other’s thoughts, beliefs, ideas, but most importantly our emotions; here’s how to do it.

  1. Love and respect yourself. Everything starts within you. What you feel about yourself holds a mirror to the people around you and you reflect your own self onto others with your actions and with the way you treat them. If you lack self respect, you will find it hard to respect others. If you don’t love yourself, you will not be able to see the good in others but instead you will first notice people’s flaws and their negativity. Believe in yourself and believe you have the power to make a change turning your negative vibrations into positive ones.
  1. You are not the only one. Thoughts, ideas, emotions, feelings are not copyrighted. Whatever goes inside you, goes inside someone else too. We all have the same feelings, we all fall in love, we all feel sad when something bad happens, more or less we all think of the same things. When something bad happens to you, remember that you are not alone. Bad things happen to all of us no matter how poor or rich one can be. And good things happen to all of us too. We all have our own insecurities, there are things that hurt all of us. Once we recognize we are all one and the same, we can appreciate and respect others for who they are and how they feel. This is a big step in learning compassion for others and to channel people.
  1. Recognize your mistakes and flaws. When we turn into ourselves to see how our actions affect others, we will find a better way to identify how deep of an impact they have in the Universe. This requires honesty. Being honest with ourselves is important in order to accept that we are simple human beings who are not perfect. We can make mistakes and intentionally or unintentionally we can hurt others. Understanding where these mistakes and flaws are coming from is another step forward to channeling people because only then, can we show patience and acceptance to other people’s actions. Denying our negativity and imperfection will only make us look other people with the same level of denial.
  1. Listen to others. How can we talk about compassion if we don’t listen to others? If you think about the way people “communicate”, or pretend to communicate to be honest, you will see we don’t really listen to each other but we usually wait for the right moment to interject only to shift the focus back to ourselves or say something to be the leading one in the conversation. We think about our replies before they finish what they have to say, while they are talking we are already judging them for the way they feel or act. Can we leave all these judgements aside and forget about shifting the focus back to ourselves and actually listen to what someone has to say? Not just listen but hear with our hearts not with our minds? Have you ever experienced a very close friendship with someone to whom you can tell your deepest secrets and seen that they can still love you the same way? If so, you know how good this feels. But this is not just about trust, this is also about giving someone else the time they deserve, the respect and compassion they need when they are trying to communicate with us. We need to learn to keep our hearts open and not shut the other person down without showing love and care.
  1. Put yourself in someone else’s shoes. Criticizing others is the easiest thing to do. We often find ourselves saying things like “if it was me, I would not do this but I would do that”, “how could so and so do such a thing, it is the worst thing to do in this situation, if it was me….” If it was you… if it was me… If… This is very connected to how good of a listener we are when we communicate with others. We often act from our own perspective and our point of view and respond from that angle as well. But have we really been in their situation? Can we really relate? Under similar circumstances would we do what we think we would do or would we stumble like they did? So learn to go to the other side of the mirror and look at your friend’s situation from a different perspective. You might be surprised of the thoughts and emotions you will discover about yourself and about them at the same time. Most importantly, you will be able to understand where they are coming from if you put your judgements and your ego aside.
  1. The power of forgiving. Holding grudges will hurt you more than it will give you peace of mind. It will hurt not only you but to the other person as well since we are all connected with the vibrations we spread around. You will not only lose your inner balance but you will also temper with the balance of your surroundings and of the people around you. When you know you are not perfect, you will also know no one else is perfect. There is nothing wrong with forgiving someone for what they did. But there is so much peace in letting go and so much comfort in giving someone another chance. But also openly and respectfully communicating with them and helping them understand how their actions can cause unpleasant effects. If you do this with a positive approach, instead of anger, you will make a change in that person’s life and who knows maybe you will be the first person to really show them how this can be done. And if you can, this would be a great achievement and well worth your time and effort.

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Originally published here at isoulscience.com July 11, 2016

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