Twin Flames Separation: The Runner and the Chaser

So, you lost your twin flame. Sounds familiar. Whether you were the one who ran, or you are the one who is chasing. Guaranteed right now, you are feeling lost, confused and completely heart-broken.

twin flame6You also may be wondering how it is at all possible that someone else could hurt you so very deeply. Before you even knew it you were up to your neck with this person. This energy, this wave that overcame you and knocked you off of your feet.

Know that you are not alone. There are many others who are going through the same experience right now, and on the other hand, there are others who will never understand your current situation. That is, because unless you’ve been through it, you just won’t understand.

As someone who has gone through this experience personally, I have nothing but experience to share and upon reflection knowledge to give to others.  In this article we are going to reflect upon the Runner and Chaser phase of a twin flame separation. Assuming at this point you have met with your twin, experienced the bubble love phase and now the bubble has burst, leaving you completely destroyed inside.

There are many symptoms following a twin flame separation and they are not like normal breakups. These symptoms can include severe insomnia, unexplained pain in the heart or chest, irrational thoughts leading to psychosis as well as unpredictable and obsessive behaviour. Quite literally you feel as if you have lost your mind.

Twin Flame Separation: The Runner and the ChaserThe pain cuts so deep that it feels impossible to embrace it and heal, because the separation is too much for you to swallow. A twin flame separation can quite literally bring you to your knees, and in fact, that is the purpose of it. To surrender, surrender to your pain, surrender to your suffering and surrender to yourself.

The Runner and the Chaser

Upon the separation, immediately it is easy to identify yourself with either role. If your twin walked away first, you associate yourself with being the chaser, and if you walked away you then associate yourself as the runner.

The chaser will continue to chase and the runner continues to run, as this mirrored push-pull continues on. The chaser will not give up looking for new angles to try to kindle the flames. But eventually, gives up and surrenders. The ego takes hold as he or she realizes the irrational behaviour.

Upon this surrender, the chaser will soon find that he in fact was not the chaser all along. But the runner.


Twin Flame Seperation: The Runner and the ChaserYou see twins are a mirror image of each other, your twin flame is you. In chasing the external you are chasing the attachment. You are chasing what you believe love should be. You are chasing the fairy tale you have built up in your head and you are trying to grasp what cannot be held. Like holding water in your hands, love can only flow through, it cannot be held. So in all of the chasing, you finally see that you were running away from yourself. When you chase your twin you run from yourself, so quite literally you are running from yourself… and running from your twin. So now that we’ve identified the fact that both the runner and chaser are in fact running from themselves… and as we know your twin flame is you. Now we can understand that there is no possible way to be together for as long as you both are running.

What to do? Let go.

When we remove all emotion, all judgement, and all expectation there is only love left. Love is found in the stillness of the soul. Love is without action, without attachment or need. Love is the subtle energy that flows through all of creation. Love transcends your being into ascension. Love is the harmony and the music of the universe, love is all there is.

Within this stillness you will find a knowing, that you are just a vessel and the vessel is the illusion. The one love is the truth.

by LJ Vanier,

Originally published here at September 23, 2015

5 Replies to “Twin Flames Separation: The Runner and the Chaser”

  1. Hello LJ ,

    As a past life therapist, I can tell for sure that if twin flames cannot work it out in this lifetime, this means that it has happened in past lives. So it is a situation that is repeating from one lifetime to the next only because the twin flame couple has not worked enough to overcome their emotional issues. In this lifetime, we have free will to make a choice and move on from a connection that only hurt us instead of making us happy. So yes, if it was not meant to be, we better let that go and let give another person a chance to make us happy. You are right that the twin flame is our mirror so if this relationship failed, it means that somewhere we are at fault. By healing ourselves, we heal our twin flame. If you truly love them, let them go. If it was meant to be, they will come back.

    It was a pleasure connecting with you today! Wishing you all the best!


  2. I truly found my twin flame I asked myself every question on twin flames and I new nothing about it. I was scared of how I was feeling I still am but now I know why it was a good scared. I feel like screaming because I can’t find the words to describe how I feel about her love doesn’t seem enough to describe it. I told her as much as We love each other that’s not the why we are together there’s something happening. That nite I found out about twin flames. I got chills through my entire body and yelled out loud in absolute joy that I new what was wrong with me.

  3. Love to me was nothing much until the time when I met him. From all of the things I’ve read on the internet and felt deep within, post his departure from my life, I’m led to believe that this person was/is probably my twin. I’ve never felt such connection before and never before have I felt such hollowness after the relationship ended. I couldn’t tell him that I miss him because he’s not ready to listen. But I know that I’ve felt true love after he left me with this emptiness. I can’t even look at another person. Maybe I was meant to be taught to feel true are pain and love.

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